Thursday, August 28, 2008

What is a military wife?

I just received this email from my wonderful KV Allison & thought it so fitting. There are many things to update the blog about, the upcoming move (don't ask, I don't know where too), sending Charlie off again yesterday to all the ins & outs of whats new with us. I have a headache & it's naptime, which I will gleefully cash in on today. But read this email, have a good laugh & know it's right on. And check back later for updates on all the excitement in our household. Karen get the tissues out!

What is a military wife?
They may look different and each is wonderfully unique. But this they have in common.They have THIS IN COMMON!
lots of moving---
moving
moving
moving far from home
moving two cars, three kids and one dog----all riding with HER of course
moving sofas to basements because they won't go in THIS house
moving curtains that won't fit
moving jobs and certifications and professional development hours
moving away from friends moving toward new friends
moving her most important luggage; her trunk full of memories

often waiting-
waiting,
waiting,
waiting for housing; waiting for orders; waitingfor deployment; waiting for reunion; waiting for phones calls; waiting for the new curtains to arrive; waiting for him to come home for dinner.

They call her 'military dependent', but she knows better: she can balance a checkbook handle the yard work, fix a noisy toilet. She is intimately familiar with drywall, anchors, and toggle bolts.

She can file the taxes, sell a house, buy a car, or set up a move, ----all with ONE Power of Attorney.

She welcomes neighbors that don't welcome her.

Reinvents her career with every PCS; locates a house in the desert, the arctic, or the deep south and learns to call them all 'home'. She MAKES them all home.

She is fiercely IN-dependent.

Military Wives are somewhat hasty. They leap into decorating, leadership, volunteering, careeralternatives, churches and friendships.

They don't have 15 years to get to know people.Their roots are short but flexible.They plant annuals for themselves and perennials for those who come after them.

Military Wives quickly learn to value each other.They connect over coffee, rely on the spouse-network and accept offers of friendship and favors and record addresses in pencil.

Military Wives have a common bond.The Military Wife has a husband unlike other husbands.His commitment is unique. He doesn't have a job, he has a 'mission' he can't just decide to quit.He's on-call for his country 24/7 but for you, he's the most...Unreliable guy in town...His language is foreign: TDY, PCS, OPR, ACC, BDU. And so, a Military Wife is a translator for her family and his. She is the long-distance link to keep them informed; the glue that holds them together.

Military Wife has her moments--She wants to wring his neck, dye his uniform pink, and refuse to move to Siberia. But she pulls herself together. Give her a few days, a travel brochure, a long hot bath, a pledge to the flag, and a wedding picture. And she goes. She packs. She moves. She follows.Why? What for? How come? You may think it is because she has lost her mind. But actually it is because she has lost her heart. It was stolen from her by a man who puts duty first, who salutes the flag and whose boots in the doorway remind her that as long as he is her Military husband, She will remain his Military wife.

2 comments:

Karen said...

Barb, thanks for the warning! I want to help you when you decide to dye those uniforms PINK!!!! We knew the day you pulled away from that church that you would have a life uniquely different from what the rest of have and so different that most of us could not imagine. Those who are from military families can are giving ya a big AMEN SISTER! right now. No matter where ya are or what you are doing I know your heart and your faith will always pull you through but never forget we are always here for you no matter what. And, if you ever need help fixing your garbage disposal just give me a call. I fixed ours last night and I am adding that one to my resume! :-) Love Ya!

Nancy said...

Barb,
Loved the post! Your children are beautiful. We'll be praying for you, Charlie & the children.
Love,
Nancy from Bethany