To all my sisters, A handout I picked up somewhere along the way . . .
Over the years, I've talked a lot about military spouses. How special they are & the price they pay for freedom too. They funny thing about it, is most military spouses don't consider themselves different from other spouses. They do what they have to do, bound together not by blood or merely friendship, but with a shared spirit whose origin is in the very essence of what love truly is. Is there truly a difference. I think there is. You have to decide for yourself.
* Other spouses get married & look forward to building equity in a home & putting down family roots. Military spouses get married & know they'll live in base housing or rent, & their roots but be short so they can be transplanted frequently.
* Other spouses decorate a home with flair & personality that will last a lifetime. Military spouses decorate a home with flare tempered with the knowledge that no to base houses have the same size windows & same size rooms. Curtains have to be flexible & multiple sets are a plus. Furniture must fit like puzzle pieces.
* Military spouses have immaculate living room/dining room combos. The coffee table got a scratch or two moving from Germany, but it still looks pretty good.
* Other spouses say good-bye to their spouses for a business trip & know they won't see them for a week. They are lonely, but can survive. Military spouses say good-bye to their deploying spouse & know they won't see them for months, or for a remote, a year. They are lonely, but will survive.
* Other spouses when a washer hose blows off, cal Maytag & then write a check out for getting the hose reconnected. Military spouses will cut the water off then fix it themselves.
* Other spouses get used to saying "hello" to friends they see all the time. Military spouses get used to saying "good-bye" to friends made in the last two years.
* Other spouses worry about whether their child will be class president next year. Military spouses worry about whether their child will be accepted in yet another new school next year and whether that school will be the worst one in the city . . . again.
* Other spouses can count on spouse participation in special events . . . birthdays, anniversaries, concerts, football games, graduation, and even the birth of a child. Military spouses only count on each other: because they realize that the Flag has to come first if freedom is to survive. It has to be that way.
* Other spouses put up yellow ribbons when the troops are imperiled across a globe & take them down when the troops come home. Military spouses wear yellow ribbons around their hearts & they never go away.
* Other spouses worry about being late for mom's Thanksgiving dinner. Military spouses worry about getting back from Japan in time for Dad's funeral.
* Other spouses are touched by the tv program showing an elderly lady putting a card down in front of a long, black wall that has names on it. The card simply says "Happy Birthday, sweetheart." You would have been sixty today." A military spouse is the lady with the card. And the wall is the Vietnam Memorial.
I would never say military spouses are better or worse than other spouses are. But I will say there is a difference. And I will say that our country ask more of military spouses than is asked of other spouses. And I will say, without hesitation, that military spouses pay just as high a price for freedom as do their active duty husbands or wives. Perhaps the price they pay is higher. Dying in service to our country isn't near as hard as loving someone who has died in service to our country, and having to live without them. God Bless our military spouses for all they freely give. And God Bless America.
Colonel Steven Arrington
17th Training Wing Vice Commander
Goodfellow AFB
San Angelo, Texas
(From the Goodfellow Monitor 11 May 01)